Rush is Rush, just like all the guys on MSNBC are who they are, and just like Cloris Leachman, famous Hollyweird actress called Sarah Palin a slut, and like Bill Maher called her a c***. And Sarah is rather happily married and is obviously none of the above.
That is the way things go in the media.
As far as people hanging on Rush's every word, not in any world I have seen. Yes, he is the most listened to talk radio host in the nation, but his audience is also capable -- just like liberals -- of thinking for themselves, and they, of course, do.
I expect that some of your personal pain is driving this conversation, and for good reasons. I'm not wanting to be another one that piles on. I have to deal with too many women in your shoes on a regular basis. I keep the box of kleenex on my desk. But, as a word of encouragement, realize that dishing back out won't help your inner hurt, even though they may inadvertently say or do something that triggers a serious response in you.
I have similar issues that stem from some of my pre-Christian addictions. I see evidence every day that either infuriates me or works to draw me back to those addictions, and I don't like it, but the AWESOME thing in Christ is forgiveness -- which is NOT a free pass for those who sin against us and against God -- but which IS our letting go of the issue so that God can handle it in HIS own way, which is always the perfect way.