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A question about marriage

Discussion in 'General Baptist Discussions' started by Doeroftheword, Apr 13, 2009.

  1. Doeroftheword

    Doeroftheword New Member

    Nov 5, 2008
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    A "friend" who I deeply care for got out of a abusive relationship and we were talking and we were discussing marriage and the bible and she said she felt hurt before cause all she has is a paper to show shes married and a paper of divorce. When I got off the phone with her I done some looking but I couldn't find anywhere in the bible where it said marriage had to have a wedding or anything before it was legal in Gods eyes so what to keep her and someone just living together verses getting married? If this is in the wrong place please move it and Help Me Please
  2. Scarlett O.

    Scarlett O. Well-Known Member
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    May 22, 2002
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    Here's an answer I gave not to long ago when someone else asked the same question on another bible board. I'll just copy, paste, and edit it for this thread.
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    There are no passages in the bible that blatantly state, "Do this and thou shalt be married."

    You do need a piece of paper in the United States to say that you are married. It's a legal document. The bible says that we are to obey our governing authorities. (The specific verse is in the link below.)

    Most importantly, to me, is the passage where Jesus was speaking to the woman at the well. (John 4) He asked for her husband. She said that she was not married. He said, "I know....you have had 5 husbands and the man that you are living with now....you are not married to him."

    Jesus definitely made a distinction between being married and living together. Jesus attended formal wedding ceremonies.

    Whether or not people in the bible underwent a legal proceeding, they did marry by some sort of ceremony.

    The link below discusses three points of view about what constitutes biblical marriage. I believe that the last paragraph is the most critical.