On another thread this subject came up, but I do not think that it was adequately addressed (it devolved in conflict seeking). I do understand that people seek out conflict. I think that this is a part of human nature (the flesh). But the initial question was a good one. How do we deal with inappropriate conduct on online forums and boards?
Here is my suggestion:
When you get into an argument and think that a member has sinned against you:
1. Contact the member in private by PM and kindly, in love, express your concern.
2. If he does not listen invite one or two others (that he respects, not who will be on “your team).
3. If he still does not listen report the issue to the Staff as they are appointed to handle such issues.
The Staff
1. Listen to both sides of the issue.
2. Look at the evidence, look at deleted posts and edits (if applicable), and discuss the issue.
3. Justly and objectively make a decision.
The Members
1. Accept the correction as presented.
2. Apologize for any inappropriate behavior
3. Repent from that action
4. Forgive the actions of others
5. Move on
Typically both sides will believe that they are correct. But a wise man accepts correction while a fool despises reproof. Correction is not offering what we want to hear. It is offering what we need to hear. Members involved in a dispute rarely, if ever, can be objective.
Here is my suggestion:
When you get into an argument and think that a member has sinned against you:
1. Contact the member in private by PM and kindly, in love, express your concern.
2. If he does not listen invite one or two others (that he respects, not who will be on “your team).
3. If he still does not listen report the issue to the Staff as they are appointed to handle such issues.
The Staff
1. Listen to both sides of the issue.
2. Look at the evidence, look at deleted posts and edits (if applicable), and discuss the issue.
3. Justly and objectively make a decision.
The Members
1. Accept the correction as presented.
2. Apologize for any inappropriate behavior
3. Repent from that action
4. Forgive the actions of others
5. Move on
Typically both sides will believe that they are correct. But a wise man accepts correction while a fool despises reproof. Correction is not offering what we want to hear. It is offering what we need to hear. Members involved in a dispute rarely, if ever, can be objective.
