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Disciplining youth

Discussion in 'Youth Forum' started by SaggyWoman, Dec 29, 2007.

  1. SaggyWoman

    SaggyWoman Active Member

    Dec 15, 2000
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    How do you discipline your youth? (your children who are youth, or youth in your church? or ones you work with at school.)

    What methods do you use that you have found effective?
  2. annsni

    annsni Well-Known Member
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    May 30, 2006
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    Honestly, I think that there are so many particulars that you can't say just one "thing" is what to do. Speaking to them as adults, treating them like children (calling mommy and daddy), even public reprimand (during youth group - calling a direct name to correct quickly), etc. We've had to send kids home from youth trips, given them extra chores, "tomato staked" them (kept them right next to a youth leader through the rest of the trip), and the like on trips.

    There's also been times that when it's a behavior or attitude permeating the group, the entire group has been addressed WITH parents involved too. It's been tough but at one point, it was necessary.

    An important thing is to really try to have those few kids (or numerous kids, depending on your make-up) who are kids who are great examples and good "mentors" to begin taking up some of the youth leadership as student leaders. Put up examples of what you expect and hopefully kids step up to that.

    HTH a little.
  3. KJVkid

    KJVkid New Member

    Dec 24, 2007
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    My own, Scripturally. Those in my church, through their parents.
  4. SaggyWoman

    SaggyWoman Active Member

    Dec 15, 2000
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    Can you be more specific? Can you give us examples?
  5. Trotter

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    Jun 29, 2003
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    With our youth group it varies. Most of the guys I can go one on one with and the problem is resolved. We've got one kid who just craves attention so bad he acts out, so i tend to "tomato stake" him (I like that term :D ).

    With the girls, we have to use isolation (put them apart from the other girls, sometimes all the kids).

    I haven't had to go to their parents yet. I am hoping I don't have to.
  6. tonyhipps

    tonyhipps New Member

    Aug 11, 2007
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    This is our Official Policy at Church for all children workers

    CHILDREN'S MINISTRY - "Discipline in the Classroom"

    B. Corrective
    1. Pray and ask the Lord for direction.
    2. Discipline the action, not the child.
    3. Try to be aware of as much as possible. (It's easy to miss the cause and see the effect.)
    4. Reinforce love after discipline - the child will have a certain amount of fear that you don't
    love them anymore. You need to reassure the child that you do, throughout the whole
    process, and especially after the discipline measure is done.
    5. Discipline privately; compliment publicly. Don't let the discipline ever publicly embarrass
    the child. Always deal with the child privately. Don't make an example out of the child.
    7. Know all the facts. Before disciplining, calmly and objectively gather all the relevant facts.
    Listen to the child. Don't jump to conclusions; you might punish the wrong child.
    8. Don't overreact. (Psalm 6:1)
    9. A time of silence with heads on desks.
    10. Minimize class disruptions.
    a. Continue to talk and conduct class while moving among the students.
    b. Pausing at the desk or placing one's hand at the desk of the disrupting student.
    c. Removing the object of disruption (e.g. pencil tapping, paper wrinkling ) silently while
    continuing with class.
    d. Ask the child to put the toy (e.g. stuffed animal, doll, toy car or plane ) away so that
    others are not distracted. If the child does not, volunteer to hold on to it until the
    end of class.
    e. Try a pause during class or a gentle "shhhh."
    f. Call the child by name and shake your head.
    g. Warn the child that if you need to speak to him/her again, you will separate him/her
    from their friends.
    h. Separate child to another desk/table/chair.
    i. Ask child to sit in a chair in the back.
    j. Child should always be assured that the teacher loves and cares for him/her, but that
    the disruptive behavior is not fair to the other children or to the teacher.
    k. Assure the child that you (the teacher) enjoys having him/her in class, but you that
    you need his/her cooperation.
    l. Ask the child if he/she is ready to rejoin the class.
    m. If the child cries, ask them to give you a hug and reassure him/her.
    n. Take care of the little things and the big things rarely happen.