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Is divorce and remarriage permissible for Christians?

Discussion in 'Free-For-All Archives' started by Carson Weber, Apr 16, 2002.

  1. jasonW*

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    Carson -

    Couple of quips

    1. The bible clearly deliniates believers from non-believers, but you have said it is baptized christians. It is very possible to be baptized and not be a believer. What are we to do then.

    2. It is very clear from scripture that Christians are not to "send away" our wifes or husbands, on this we can agree. But if the non-believing member leaves, the believer is not "bound" anymore. Even if church tradition doesn't support this it doesn't change the fact that the scripture says it. The Catholic church and the protestant church have both had some issues in the past where they were wrong. Isn't it possible the Catholic church is still wrong here, as it was with other issues?

    3. You always talk of tradition, but tradition is wrought full of error. Why hold to tradition which obvsiously is in error? Is tradition infallible now as well? That would make the bible, the pope and tradition. What is next? 104.9 FM (Local christian radio station) will be infallible tomorrow?

    In Christ (not tradition),
    jason
     
  2. Carson Weber

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    Hi Jason,

    You wrote, "The bible clearly deliniates believers from non-believers, but you have said it is baptized christians. It is very possible to be baptized and not be a believer. What are we to do then."

    I would argue that the New Testament, (esp. Paul) equates "one who is baptized" with "one who is a believer". If both are baptized, one or both don't have a living faith, and a marriage takes place, then it cannot be undone.

    You wrote, "It is very clear from scripture that Christians are not to "send away" our wifes or husbands, on this we can agree. But if the non-believing member leaves, the believer is not "bound" anymore. Even if church tradition doesn't support this it doesn't change the fact that the scripture says it. The Catholic church and the protestant church have both had some issues in the past where they were wrong. Isn't it possible the Catholic church is still wrong here, as it was with other issues?"

    Anything's possible Jason. Heck, Jesus may not be divine because the Church might be wrong on this issue. Even the Gospels may be fabrications of later Christian communities, and they might be wrong (e.g. the Jesus Seminar).

    My assumption is based on faith: that the Scriptures are inerrant due to the fact that they're theopneustos, and you should address the Scriptural arguments I've made if you hold to this same belief in Holy Scripture, but you aren't dong this. Please, step up to the plate and address what I've presented on a point-by-point basis and stop quibbling.

    You wrote, "You always talk of tradition, but tradition is wrought full of error. Why hold to tradition which obvsiously is in error? Is tradition infallible now as well?

    You see, Jason, I believe that the Holy Spirit animates Tradition, protects the Magisterium, and inspires Scripture. Any credit given is due to the Holy Spirit.

    How you can accept the canon of the New Testament and the full doctrine of the Trinity, yet make a statement such as, "tradition is wrought full of error" is beyond my understanding.

    God bless,

    Carson

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  3. wishtolearn

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  4. Carson Weber

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    Hi wishtolearn,

    You wrote, "He gave us life so that we may live it abundantly. Our Father wants us to be happy and the generations we create to be happy, not bound to some Scriptural interpretation of the Law as we think it is."

    Again I would reiterate that, according to your reasoning, it would be better for a person not to be a Christian if he/she doesn't have to face martyrdom when asked by an authoritarian atheistic regime if they believe in the Lord Jesus.

    Please, give me New Testament Scripture and respond to my exegesis of Scripture if you're a Christian. You are a Christian, aren't you? Christians follow "God's Word", and that's what we're trying to do here. His Word is the standard, not ours. As Christians, we don't create the terms of the New Covenant ... God does.

    Scripture says that Jesus tells us, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another, commits adultery against her; and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery."

    Obviously the subjects in Jesus' hypothetical are "happy", and adultery can be seen as "abundant". So what?

    God bless,

    Carson

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  5. jasonW*

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    I am not addressing the scripture, frankly, because you don't want to hear it. People have told you what it means, you won't accept it. I have a feeling you won't accept it until you are spoon fed the response from Dr. Hahn (if that is the correct spelling). I will try to appeal to a side you still may have open to non-catholic positions...and the truth. That side being logic. Though, I do have my doubts as to whether you will listen whole heartedly.

    I know it is beyond your understanding, that is why I am trying to explain it to you.

    Let me put only one example out there. Death penalty. Catholic church practiced this for hundreds of years. Now we are told the death penalty is a horrible, horrible idea (from John Paul 2). Well, which catholic churh was right? The old or the new?

    How about the CC support of the Nazi's in WWII? The church has issued apologies for its behavior, but this is now tradition. You can't have it both ways. Either the tradition was all well and good or it the apology was correct for being issued.

    And just so you know, I believe the holy spirit works in all church organizations where true believers are present and used the CC to maintain parts of the bible. I also feel that the CC has strayed from its once great and humble beginnings. This has caused many diversions and perversions.

    In Christ,
    jason
     
  6. Carson Weber

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    Hi Jason,

    You wrote, "I have a feeling you won't accept it until you are spoon fed the response from Dr. Hahn (if that is the correct spelling)."

    Should I really respond to this? Would Jesus want for me to respond to this?

    You wrote, "I am not addressing the scripture, frankly, because you don't want to hear it.

    I'm addressing the Scriptures even though I may think you don't want to hear it, and it isn't stopping me.

    You're incorrect. I do want to hear it, and I want to test it. This is called disputation, and it's healthy. It's also what we've been engaging in with about 90% of these posts. There's nothing new under the sun, and I encourage you to join in.

    You wrote, "Let me put only one example out there. Death penalty. Catholic church practiced this for hundreds of years. Now we are told the death penalty is a horrible, horrible idea (from John Paul 2). Well, which catholic churh was right? The old or the new?"

    That's a good question; would you like to listen to a lecture on the subject or read an article? Or, are you simply throwing this out though you don't want to hear my answer?

    The Christian tradition has recognized a government's right to protect its citizens by using the death penalty in some serious situations. However, the question today is whether capital punishment is still justifiable in the present circumstances in the United States.

    You wrote, "How about the CC support of the Nazi's in WWII?"

    *laughing* Perhaps, as well, you should be asking about the Catholic support of Nero during the Roman persecutions of the Church.

    Again, I don't see any Scripture. Would you mind addressing my arguments? What's the point in posting if you won't dialogue? Why are you even here?

    Jesus tells us, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another, commits adultery against her; and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery."

    Do you disagree with Jesus? Do you follow Jesus?

    God bless,

    Carson

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  7. wishtolearn

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    Well, then I'll take being an adulteress over unhappiness any day of the week. Jesus died for our sins and I'm pretty sure he'll forgive me and understand my reasoning when I meet him again someday.
     
  8. Carson Weber

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    Hi wishtolearn,

    You wrote, "I cannot quote Scripture as fluently as yourself and others on this board, however I do not think myself any less a Christian for not having this talent."

    Thank you for your display of humility, and our "being Christian" isn't dependent upon our talent to exegete Scripture. This is why Jesus gave us a home, a Church (specifically, the Catholic Church), in which we can live, breath, and love without fear of having our ignorance injure our salvation.

    You wrote, "Well, then I'll take being an adulteress over unhappiness any day of the week."

    But, really? Would you?

    You wrote, "Jesus died for our sins and I'm pretty sure he'll forgive me and understand my reasoning when I meet him again someday."

    Paul tells us, "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither the immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor sexual perverts, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor robbers will inherit the kingdom of God."

    Those who remain enslaved to sin will not be saved, regardless of what they profess. Christianity isn't only a cognitive belief system, which it includes (because we believe what God has revealed); it's a life that involves the volitional will and the action of the Spirit. One who trusts in Jesus, yet "sins bravely" will not be saved. This is an emphatically clear message the New Testament uncompromisingly presents to us, and we aren't at liberty, as Christians, to ignore, defame, or water the Gospel message.

    St. Paul says, "but declared first to those at Damascus, then at Jerusalem and throughout all the country of Judea, and also to the Gentiles, that they should repent and turn to God and perform deeds worthy of their repentance." (Acts 26:20)

    The Greek for "repent" is metanoeo, which comes from meta (after/against) + noeo (to think or perceive), and it means "to change one's mind, to heartily to amend with abhorrence of one's past sins." If we've repented, we abohor adultery and turn from it. If we do not abhor sin and have turned from it, then we haven't repented and turned to God, and we do not have a faith that will save us.

    God bless,

    Carson

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  9. Pastor Larry

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    No ... rather it is evident that you don't like it. That is far different.

    I can understand your position and your adamancy about it. However, you must realize that your position is not explicit in Scripture. You have assumed that I am allowing adultery when in fact that is not the case.

    It is a divorce by another name. With an anullment, someone who has lived in a state sanctioned marriage for years participating in all the benefits of marriage, can now remarry because they were never really "married." That is foolishness and you know it. But you must say what you do in order to support your church.

    As for your exegetical issues, I do not have time to address them. There are adequate resources from all sides of the issues who deal exegetically with the points. I realize that there is evidence to support your side. What you appear not to realize is that there is evidence to refute your side.
     
  10. Carson Weber

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    Hi Larry,

    You wrote, "I ... am not totally convinced either way. I can see both sides of it" concerning divorce and remarriage. I then proceed with, "It's evident that you don't have a doctrine concerning "divorce and remarriage" after the marriage of two Christians, and that you're leaving the topic to further debate." And, you wrote, "No ... rather it is evident that you don't like it. That is far different."

    Your reply, "No" gives a negative response to my statement, "you don't have a doctrine concerning "divorce and remarriage ... you're leaving the topic to further debate", which is a truthful and clear expression of your statement, "I ... am not totally convinced either way. I can see both sides of it." So, perhaps, "No," needs further explanation on your part.

    You wrote, "It is a divorce by another name."

    No, annulments are not "divorce by another name", and the Catholic doctrine concerning annulments is sound. As I've said, conditions exist in order for the sacrament to exist. If a pastor celebrates the liturgy with water and cheese, the consecration does not take place, and, consequently, there is no Eucharist. An analogy can be made with the administration of the sacrament of marriage.

    This sacrament does not exist, also, if the condition of "two baptized Christians" is not met. Therefore, the Pauline privilege of divorce/remarriage after the divorce between a couple wherein one partner was not baptized can be applied.

    You wrote, "What you appear not to realize is that there is evidence to refute your side."

    Well, give it, and let's discuss this "evidence" that refutes the clear, Biblical command by Jesus, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another, commits adultery against her; and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery."

    What do you think about this new argument? Does it make sense? Are there any holes in it? I'm still looking into it, and if you, from your viewpoint, see anything wrong with it, I would like to know.

    God bless,

    Carson

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  11. wishtolearn

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    " Well then I'll take being an adulteress over being unhappy any day of the week"
    Yes, I meant that statement. YOu interpret the Bible any way you want to. If I get a divorce because we are not happy in our marriage, there are no children involved, and I go on to find love somewhere else potentially, then what sounds like the better plan? Jesus will judge me by the contents of my heart, for Him and for my fellow humans. What I know in my heart and my relationship with Him is a definate and I do not need the teachings of the Church nor man's interpretations of Scripture to tell me where my Heavenly home will be. Like I said, we are meant to learn from this life and if we make mistakes, whether it is marrying the wrong person, or divorcing them, we will go on. And I will go on without fear of His judgement of myself.
     
  12. ken1burton

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    The Roman Catholic Church was mentioned as far as being against the Death penalty. Just a quick note. Spiritually if they were correct (Thank God they are not) Excommunication is a Death Penalty still practiced.

    And refusing to baptise a Baby (also error in Doctrine) would be the same as Abortion. The Child would not be able to get to God.

    To make it plain, I am saying the Roman Catholic Church practices there own form of Capital punishment and Abortion. Both errors and not supported by God, they forgot GRACE.

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  13. Carson Weber

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    Hi wishtolearn,

    You wrote, "What I know in my heart and my relationship with Him is a definate and I do not need ... man's interpretations of Scripture to tell me where my Heavenly home will be."

    I didn't have need to "interpret" the Scripture. I simply quoted it..

    (A) "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another, commits adultery against her; and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery." plus (B) "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither the immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor sexual perverts, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor robbers will inherit the kingdom of God." equals (C)

    This "faith alone" salvation that trashes the Moral Law is unScriptural and leads many Christians down the broad path, which is eternity spent outside the presence of God. My intention is to teach Scripture to those who are ignorant of its clear and profound import for the Christian life, which leads to our personal fulfillment and eternal Beatitude.

    God bless,

    Carson

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  14. jasonW*

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    Don't know, you must personally anaylze your own life and see if Dr. Hahn (or any earthly leader or teacher) is too big an influence on you. If Dr. H is more of an influence on your thinking than Jesus, I would say you need to address it. If not, you would be fine.

    No carson, they are called preconieved notions and you have them. You asked a question to which you thought you had the answer. You didn't want to hear what other people had to say, you only wanted to correct them. This is more than evident in your posts and the style of language you used.

    I would love to hear the answer, though, you recognize that by answering the question you could just blow out the whole papal infallibility thing right?

    How about when the CHURCH practiced and executed the death penalty...when the churches official position on heretics was to burn them at the stake?

    You must have mispoke, because you should have said 'church', not 'Church'.

    And I must ask, do you deny that the CC helped Mussolini in Italy during WWII? Do you deny that the CC did little to stop the persecution in Germany during WWII?

    Carson, I already gave you my response several pages ago. I also gave scripture.

    Should I say it again?

    Do I follow Christ? Yes, yes I do. I do it every day and I pray to Him to help me through each and every day doing on that which is pleasing to Him. When I fail, and I do quite a bit as I am human, I ask Him for forgiveness and strength not to do it again.

    Carson, we are both Christians, but you fail to realize that following Jesus is not about rules and regulations. It is not about not critising the Pope or a Priest. It is not about belonging to a particular church. It is not about actually believing that the bread and wine are His body. It is not about praying to Mary. It is about love and reverence. It is about repentance and hope. It is about a new life, one which we dedicate and give to our Savior and Lord Jesus Christ. A life that we have only because of Him; He, Who is our one and only, our everything. Without him, we are dead, through Him, all things are possible.

    I guess the question is, do you follow Christ...or the Church?

    In Christ,
    jason
     
  15. Carson Weber

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    Hi Jason,

    In your previous post, you didn't address the issue at hand, you didn't present any Scripture, and you didn't criticize any of my arguments. If you won't step up to the plate and dialogue, then I'll stop responding to you. The thread is entitled, "Is divorce and remarriage permissible for Christians?"

    You wrote, "It is about love and reverence. It is about repentance and hope. It is about a new life, one which we dedicate and give to our Savior and Lord Jesus Christ. A life that we have only because of Him; He, Who is our one and only, our everything. Without him, we are dead, through Him, all things are possible."

    Can I say.. Amen?

    You wrote, "I guess the question is, do you follow Christ...or the Church?"

    Have you stopped beating your wife?

    Paul says in Phil 3:4-6 - Though I myself ... as to zeal a persecutor of the church

    and he also says in Acts 22:7 - And I fell to the ground and heard a voice saying to me, `Saul, Saul, why do you persecute me?'

    Would you pray for my apostolate this summer? It's described in this thread: http://www.baptistboard.com/ubb/ultimatebb.php?ubb=get_topic;f=28;t=000838

    God bless,

    Carson

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  16. Clint Kritzer

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    It's good to see that you changed your initial question in your first post tonight, Carson.
    Perhaps you're getting some perspective at the Baptist Board after all. [​IMG]
     
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    Come to think of it, did you change the title as well?
    Didn't it start out just Is divorce and remarriage permissible?

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  18. Carson Weber

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    Hi Clint,

    You wrote, "It's good to see that you changed your initial question in your first post tonight, Carson." and "Come to think of it, did you change the title as well?"

    Yes, it's quite self-evident concerning that it shifted the links to each page number below the title, and I'm not "ashamed" of this change nor do I intend to "hide" it because I'm "changing my position" or performing some crafty & cunning "behind the scenes" maneuvering.

    Thanks for the benefit of the doubt. [​IMG]

    I'm clarifying my question. My original question (which was identical with the title of the thread) intended to ask a much more specific question than how I originally stated the question. By making this change and greater clarification, I hope to dispell further confusion for those who are answering this post for the first time or those who haven't followed all of the posts in the thread.

    To answer your final question, "Didn't it start out just Is divorce and remarriage permissible?", the answer is No.

    It started out even simpler than that: "Is divorce permissible?"

    God bless you,

    Carson

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  19. jasonW*

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    My previous posts were critiques of your style, which is just as important in debates as substance. Style can be used to confuse, draw attention away from or obsfucate the matter at hand.

    As mentioned, I already offered my opinion and used scripture.
    No carson, they are two different things. 'The' Church and Christ are not necassarily intertwined and until you realize and accept this you may be serving 'The' Church when you should be serving Christ in some, maybe many instances.

    Glad you are finally seeing it correctly Carson. Paul (or Saul as he was) was persecuting the church (body of believers and converts), not the Catholic Church (heirarchical organization not truley present until around 300AD). Note the small c. Please don't try to build a strawman by saying I meant Christ's church, the body of believers when I was referring to the Catholic Church

    Of course, I would pray for any pro-life movement.

    In Christ,
    jason
     
  20. Carson Weber

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    Hi Jason,

    You wrote, "Of course, I would pray for any pro-life movement."

    Thank you.

    Jesus says in Mark 10:9-12, "What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder ... Whoever divorces his wife and marries another, commits adultery against her; and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery."

    Adultery is \e-del-t(e-)re\ n, pl -teries : sexual unfaithfulness of a married person adulterer \-ter-er\ n adulteress \-t(e-)res\ n adulterous \-t(e-)res\ adj

    Jesus tells us that divorce followed by remarriage results in adultery. Why? How can the married couple still be married if they've undergone a legal divorce?

    If two Christians are joined together in the Sacrament of Marriage, divorce will not sunder the marital bond, regardless of hope or desire. Let not man put asunder what God has joined.

    God bless,

    Carson

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