Cameron Diaz and the Death of Marriage

Sounds a little hysterical to me. 90% of married people view their marriage as a their most potent stressor? A marriage license makes married people feel "confined" and strips the couple of their love and commitment and makes married people feel "psychologically suffocated"?

A little piece of paper does all that?!?!? From the married couples that talk to me about stress, they have never once mentioned the marriage license. A lot of other things, but not that.

I didn't understand that statement. Someone help me out with reading comprehension here.

I just don't believe that. Certainly, relationships evolve and change over the years, husbands grow up - wives grow up - and the "couple" grows up - but to say that after five years husbands and wives don't want to have sex with each other anymore because of co-habitational "familiarity" doesn't make any sense. I don't believe that.

Oh, and as a side note - what kind of professional person with a string of letters behind his name in a professional article says "doing it" as a euphemism for marital relations. Sounds like 7th grade boy talking to his friends to me. :laugh:

Now THIS, I understand. It's clear as a bell. And...

....it's a bunch of HOOEY!! Or as my pastor says, "There's a Greek word for that - BALOGNA!"

I completely understand the old adage, "absence makes the heart grow fonder", but this is ridiculous. I teach the "old ladies" in Sunday School. In the past 6 months, three of them have lost their husbands. All I can say is that the affection, desire, and "wanting" between these husbands and wives - the deep love and special companionship - never waned. One couple was married for 65 years and they claimed to be more in love and more devoted as the years passed. I believed them.

So ..... people get married - everyday - not having a clue what they are getting themselves into. Not being prepared. Not looking forward. Only focusing on the wedding and not the marriage. And so many of them divorce.

Um.... YES! Does that mean that the institution of marriage is bad or that marriage did this to them?

Um.... NO! They did this to themselve by not preparing properly and not being willing to work HARD when the going got a little rough.

I may get in the kitchen and make an attempt to make a cornbread dressing for Thanksgiving, but I can tell you now it will be a FLOP!! I can't cook. Don't come to my house for any holiday meal (or any regular meal for that matter!)

But that doesn't make Thanksgiving a holiday to be thrown out the window. And it doesn't make Thanksgiving not meaningful. It just means that I never prepared to learn how to cook and that I never have put forth any effort TO learn. That's all.

There are far too many solid married couples who have prepared for marriage or maybe they didn't. But they WORKED their tails off WITH each and FOR each to make it right and make it last and make it meaningful.

If I ever need a psychiatrist - I ain't going to see this guy! :laugh: :tonofbricks: