Matt, that story hurt me just reading it.
What's hurtful about it is that the married guy didn't give the single person enough credit for knowing that he should sit in aisle seat. He had to point it out and say it outloud.
It's bad enough when you go to a restaurant and sit at a table for an even number of people and you are the 3rd, 5th, or 7th wheel, but to have a married person assume that you don't know your place is hurtful.
I'm 48 and I have married friends and a few single friends. I know my place. I know the events that I can attend with my married friends and the ones that I can't.
All we ask is that married people give us enough credit to know. I'm sure that Salty would not have sat between two married people. He didn't need to be told what to do. That's the point he was making.
Hospitality to single people/parents
Discussion in 'General Baptist Discussions' started by Peggy, Mar 1, 2010.
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Scarlett O. ModeratorModerator
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When the pastor gets on the subject of marriage, I tune out. I've been married and divorced twice and have no intention of making that mistake again; I've learned my lesson. It's better to be single and unhappy than married and even more unhappy.
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Scarlett O. ModeratorModerator
I alway tailor my conferences TO the married woman. Not exclusively. But I have to be realistic. The majority of them are married. I do purposely include single, divorced, and widowed because this population in the church is growing by leaps and bounds.
But I have to "think" like a married woman when I prepare for these presentations or else, me, being single, will forget and exclude them.
I can't stand it when married women come to me and complain about their husbands. Usually it's either (a) something that they should let go or (b) something that they should be talking to HIM about.
If I had a nickel for every time I have told a complaining married woman to "be grateful that you have a husband and go home and tend to your marriage and let your husband know that you are hurting in this area", I could take you and I to lunch. -
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Give me a break...some people read way too much into things. -
and you don't read enough
or - the two of us men were large, the wife was petite - and it was a small diner....
or maybe, it was just the attitute...
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Salty...
I'm sure you *really* felt (((welcome))) at that point.
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When I rededicated my life to Christ, I was a divorced mother of two and grandmother of two. I was never excluded from church functions unless it was something like the Sweetheart Banquet, which is obviously a couples function. But I never forced myself into anything, since I am so adamantly against anything that resembles the world's behavior - i.e. demands of equal rights, discrimination, harrassment, other complaints that have been blanket coveralls. We had a singles class when there were enough singles to warrant it. Right now we don't, and the singles go to the adult Sunday School class.
I am married since Sept of 2006. God put a special man in my life, and I didn't ask God for him, but I know I needed him, and that's why God put him here. 3 months after we were married, I was diagnosed with cancer.
My husband had lost his first wife of 37 years to cancer, so he was the best caretaker ever.
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