Thank you, Larry. OK, in line with your response, I have some questions.
First of all, when I asked if God is in control of all we do and say and think and are, you responded, "As for Helen's question, as a general rule, yes Calvinists tend to believe that.".
The 'tend to believe' interested me, but that aside for a moment, I assume that those who tend to believe that, believe it because they think it is true. The problem I have with this view of sovereignty is that it invlaidates our entire legal system as well as the concept of moral accountability. If God is in control of what I do, then what I do is right, no matter what I do! That invalidates anyone's judgment of anything I do. This seems to be the logical consequence of that view of sovereignty.
You then said that you base it on Ephesians 1:11, which is an incomplete sentence in and of itselfand must be included with verse 12.
NIV: In him we were also chosen, having been predestined according to the plan of him who works out everything in conformity with the purpose of his will, in order that we, who were the first to hope in Christ, might be fore the praise of his glory.
KJV: In whom also we have obtained an inheritance, being predestinated according to the purpose of him who worketh all things after the consel of his own will: That we should be to the praise of his glory, who first trusted in Christ.
You emphasized the verb 'worketh' or 'works'. So I looked it up.
It is #1754 in Strongs, energeo and, in the Greek, is an active verb, as you said, meaning 'put energy into' which we translate as 'act' or 'work'. Thus the meaning seems to be not that God controls everything that happens, but that he puts energy into, or acts within all things in order to cause them to conform to His will. This would be in accord, of course, with Romans 8:28, and other similar verses.
You next emphasized (put in bold) the 'all things.' All things means all things. You sort of made a point of that. And, as was stated earlier by someone else, if God does it, then it is good. This means God is determining the actions of sadists, murderers, rapists, and all manner of evil doers. This is evidently in accordance with His good will.
So 1. How dare we judge them? and 2. Why the Ten Commandments? and 3. Why does God cause rebellion against Himself? If He is Good, and Jesus stated that only God is good (the words used there mean intrinsically good, not just 'looking good'), then rebellion against Him is bad by definition. But if He is in control of all we do and say and think and are, then that rebellion is from Him directed towards Himself and that really does not make any sense to me.
This is not a matter of secondary causation unless a man can choose to do good or evil in his own heart. If there is only one choice, then there is no choice at all, for the meaning of the word 'choice' means there are at least two alternatives. One cannot 'choose' when there are no alternatives. So the concept of 'secondary causation' means there is another will at work somewhere, does it not? A will not of God?
But if He is in control of what that person thinks, then He is also in control of what that person wills...
You stated in the last paragraph that we needed to set our own logic aside. I know that God's ways are higher than ours, but I wonder, then, to whom was it He was speaking in Isaiah 1 when He said, "Come, let us reason together.."
Doesn't reasoning mean we are to use our logic?