I had an old preacher tell me once "speak truth, people will always do what they want".
If they want to please the Lord they know what they need to do and will do it but if they want to please themselves they will do what they want and reason their deceived heart why it is right.
Simple choice, self sacrifice or self gratification.
Romans 12:1-2
The person met with another pastor at another church today whom gave the exact opposite counsel and said separation without Biblical cause to be Unbiblical. He was also advised not to attend that church.
"Who" is a subjective pronoun.
"Whom" is in the objective case.
"Who" is always subject to a verb.
"Whom" always works as an object in a sentence.
I have a friend who is a teacher.
I have a friend whom I would wholeheartedly recommend for the teaching position.
He = who
Him = whom
Just stick with "who" every time, Evan, and you will be good.
"Whom" is more and more considered formal, so you will not sound weird if you just remove "whom" from your vocabulary.
I hope this helps.
Grammar affects how we are viewed. I knew a woman who did the same thing Evan is doing but with "me" and "I".
Eg "Me am glad to see you."
He can't help his cousin, but maybe he can improve his grammar.
If Jacob is Evan then he needs help that this forum can't provide.
Either way he can fix the "whom" issue and at least take something from this thread.