The day had come. I'd lasted as long as I could in my marriage. Once my husband, Bill, left for work, I packed a bag for myself and our 14-month-old son and left our home. It was the only year in our married life when we lived in the same town as my parents. Obviously the convenience of being able to run to Mom and Dad made my decision to leave Bill easier........
More Here
Do not get caught up in who was right or wrong the husband or the wife. Just read the article and apply it to everyone.
The List That Saved My Marriage
Discussion in 'General Baptist Discussions' started by Revmitchell, Aug 12, 2008.
Page 1 of 2
-
Revmitchell Well-Known MemberSite Supporter
-
Very cool article! A good reminder to humbly look at ourselves. Thanks.
-
Thanks, Rev. Everyone should have a mother like that.
Tim Reynolds -
Revmitchell Well-Known MemberSite Supporter
-
-
Jesus teaching on marriage:
Mark 10:7-9 - For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
Malachi 2:16 - For the Lord, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away
"putting away" is the Old Testament phrase for divorce, proof that God hates divorce. -
The world’s advice is......
“This is the only life you have, so you shouldn’t waist it in a relationship that doesn’t please you.”
But the fact is, this is not the only life we have.
(We need to be keeping an eye on eternity!)
Doing the right things in this life, will be rewarded in the next life!
We have God’s Word on it. -
Very good
Very good lesson. -
Good article, but I am living proof that sometimes we just arent given that opportunity in our marriages. I prayed over my marriage stood on my vows for 7 years and its still over and the same day our divorce was final he went and married her. Thats a very hard thing to live with knowing he married her the day your divorce was final and I have been beating myself up over it for over 2 months now. I keep asking myself--what could I have changed? And the answer is nothing--He had free will. I did what I could do with Christ at the center.
-
I have been praying for you superwoman, as I know others on this board are.
You know the world would look at your situation and say, "you wasted all those years," but answer me this. Is there not some comfort to you in the fact that you did all you could, obeyed your vows and kept up your half of the marriage. Yes your marriage ended and that is a tragedy, but how much more tragic would it be if you knew you had not given it your best? -
Great article, it was like holding up a mirror...
-
God hates divorced people, and he also hates married and single people, but not as much as he hates gay people. In fact he hates you all, especially those who worship Mr. Peanut, whose God is the great Goober.
Yours in hate,
Pastor Fred Phelps
:tonofbricks: -
Revmitchell Well-Known MemberSite Supporter
What is this derail about? -
-
Revmitchell Well-Known MemberSite Supporter
maybe it is a Chesire English thing. :laugh: -
I have to second Goldie's observation that this is a matter of obedience. Not every Christian has a wise mother or an old copy of Christianity Today where he can read this article; but if he knows what Jesus said, he can obey it even if he wants to do something else.
I might be wrong, but I seem to detect these days a great shift in Christian ethics, where Christians obey when they can justify it with science, psychology, economics, et al., but they just "reinterpret" the Scriptures when the aforementioned disciplines (or the current culture) dictate otherwise.
I am thankful for the good advice this mother gave her daughter and I hope to benefit from it in my own marriage, and to share it with others when possible. It makes obedience easier. But obedience is required whether it's easy or not. -
I don't plan on her leaving me but I believe that's why Jesus said, "...and marries again".
Mt 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery
He also seems to have added an exclusionary statement "except it be for fornication". -
Your question asks about a different state of affairs, and I think there already has been a thread on that topic sometime recently. -
-
I have shared my beliefs on divorce on several threads, but since that is what we are talking about here I will say it again. I believe my position is Biblical although it is too conservative for some and too liberal for others. In response to LeBuick:
Now, in response to the rest of LeBuick’s post of:
1. Divorce is always wrong, always sin, stay in the marriage if you can. I don’t really care if you are happy or not, you do not have the right to be happy. You made a promise to stay with your spouse you need to honor your word. You gave your word to each other and made vows before almighty God. What is your word worth? Now if there is danger to your health and safety or danger to your children that goes way beyond your happiness, leave, run, you did all you could.
2. Once divorce has happened you have to move on. Repent, mourn, change, seek forgiveness, but now you are no longer in bondage and are free. Free to seek happiness in your life and free to seek another marriage partner.
Superwoman, I mean none of this as any kind of attack on you. We have all read what you have posted of your story and you are in my prayers as you move forward with your life. As far as child support. He owes it, get a lawyer and go get it. The only down side is that with child support often come visitation rights. You can use unpaid child support to restrict visitation.
Page 1 of 2