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Why many Christian men remain single.

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  1. Latver11Leader

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    Below is a link to a video that I have come across recently discussing the issue of why many Christian men stay single. I have posted my response to the video that is below the link. Please share any thoughts or insights that you may have concerning this topic.



    Why many Christian men remain single? Well, this video only showed half of the picture, which is also somewhat inaccurate. Let's start this off. 1.) "Men are immature and only play video games all day." Alright maybe some guys, but certainly not all. I've seen plenty of women who act like little girls by gossiping, being materialistic and irresponsible, and cry when they don't get their own way. Maybe some modern day women should focus upon improving their own maturity levels first before looking at other people. 2.) "Men don't understand the calling for their lives." Not every guy is clueless about what they want to do with their life. In my early 20's I decided to join the military, so I could work as an IT and travel the world. I've been working in the Information Technology field ever since and I am truly passionate about my career. As a church member I volunteer, tithe, and support my pastor in carrying out the work of the Lord. So discovering our calling is not an issue for many of us. We know what we are doing and the direction we are heading in. 3.) "Paralysis of analysis?" Hardly the case. As a nine year military veteran, I've been highly trained to make many tough decision in very stressful situations. I didn't have the luxury to be indecisive. There are many men that I know of, some friends, neighbors, colleagues, and co-workers that are more than capable of making some hard choices in their lives. I can't say the same for some women however, who will take 30 minutes just to decide what they are going to eat for lunch that day. Another reason why many modern day women don't get asked out is that men are simply tired of the drama that comes with dating and relationships. Many women today are very entitled, self centered, arrogant, hypocritical, condescending, and hateful gold diggers that only care about what a man will give them with no desire to enrich his life in return. I believe modern day feminism and societal double standards that favor women are some contributing factors to this existing condition. There are some good women still out there, however, these precious gems are very hard to find in today's world. With all that said, I bow out.
     
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    Feminism has ruined women. Feminists are miserable women who make the men in their lives miserable. Feminism also causes the government to punish working men, for every woman who stays home, so something called equality is achieved, and therefor men can't be providers as women would like.

    The government punishes marriage through higher taxes. the government punishes men who get married by taking away their children, and giving them a monthly bill, when the marriage fails.

    And, churches celebrate divorce. Fake loves wins again.
     
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  3. Latver11Leader

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    The number of divorces in this country are staggering. I have met so many divorced men, both christian and non-christian who were issued divorce papers, and it wasn't because of the husband being unfaithful or abusing his wife. No, their wives simply didn't want to be married to them anymore. Of course these poor excuses for women would later go on to win custody of their kids, demand child support, move in with their new boyfriends, and make their ex husbands' lives a living hell. So is it any wonder why many men from around the world have formed an alliance known as MGTOW? Who can blame them after all the male bashing sessions from feminists filled with misandry and the demonizing of men in the Western world?
     
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    I'd like to give a word of honest encouragement here, but alas, my chromosomes are xx.
     
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    You can still do so; both chromosomes have the same weakness —SIN!!:Frown
     
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    I've seen the same thing, many times.

    And, if that women belongs to one of most churches, the church will be "loving and supportive" of her, treating her like she's a victim rather than a perpetrator.

    The typical modern woman is incapable of being happy with any man, and they face no penalty for breaking a marriage.
     
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    Why are you watching a Youtube video from a 20-something nitwit? You do know that you're handing him money?
     
  8. Latver11Leader

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    Not quite Marty. I reject the youtuber's hypothesis on the subject covered as stated, and I only give my money to my local church (tithing). This youngblood has much to learn about modern day dating, relationships, marriage, divorce, etc. Hopefully he realizes what is really going on here like so many men already do.
     
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    In my humble opinion Women aren't any worse than most men. Women of the night all agree there's is the best way to live and they tend to be the most unhappy. The same with men They look for all the wrong qualities in a women. Looks being the most important. Promiscuity the next. I was attracted to my wife because she was quite and a bit shy. In fact she still is. She believes in God just as I do. She is loving and warm and I truly believe she thinks of me before she thinks of her self. As do I in our relationship. A marriage depends on the why of the relationship. A sexy woman is most likely going to give you more problems than you might think possible. I wouldn't have a gossip or one who depends on her friends advice. IOW"s following the crowd. Don't even think you can change them or convert them because you cannot. I dated until I was 29 years old. Women with all sorts of back grounds and I was about ready to give up when I met my wife. We dated for nearly two years before I asked her to marry me. We knew each others likes and dislikes and most importantly we both believed in Jesus Christ The latter made it a success..
    MB
     
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    It sounds like you have found a good woman who loves you, and even more importantly loves Jesus Christ. Every marriage should be centered around Jesus for it to even have a chance to last. I really do believe there are great Christian women out there, it just seems like they are so hard to find. To be fair, I also believe it's getting harder for women to find a good man as well. I'm glad you found a godly wife to be your help meet, MB.
     
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    Not any worse? Women file for divorce twice as often as men.

    Modern women suffer from a conflict between what they instinctively want and what feminism tells them to demand. The result is they're miserable malcontents. They more educated, the more malcontent. Feminism tells women to be leaders, but they congenitally lack leadership aptitude. Feminism demands that they be independent on men, but they instinctively want strong men.

    Look at women complaining about being oppressed. They greatly outnumber men in college, but look at all the angry feminist groups on campus. They still get a great deal of sexual preferences in the work place, yet insist they get paid less for the same work. They almost always "win" in divorce. Tyler Swift, currently the highest paid celebrity in the world, just came out with a song, The Man, asking how much further ahead she'd be if she were a man.

    Half of all women are incapable of having lasting happiness with any man. In 90% of marriages, the woman is the chief reason the marriage isn't happier. You don't hear this because Political Correctness, female privilege, protects women from criticism. It's like talking about race and crime.
     
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    I would have to disagree. I believe men marry the wrong women because of infatuation not Love. Women it may seem to you that they have all the privileges but a lot of women file for divorce because of abuse. The last 7 years of my working life I managed properties in which over the course of that time I seen a lot of women beat to a pulp by men who would come back and beg the women to take them back. If they did take them back it would start all over again. It seems to me sir that you must hate women and is why you attempt to defame them. The truth is men and women have the same lust as each other they have the same jealousies as each other. Only on occasion do we hear of a women beating a man to a pulp. There are other forms of abuse as well perpetrated on women. Maybe you feel abused because you can't find one that will really love you. Start looking at your self and how you treat women. I've found that women just can't resist a man who is respectful of her. You don't seem to have any respect for women.
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    I call bull on that. I gave examples of feminism making women malcontents, to explain most divorces. You blame violent, toxic masculinity. And, of course, the only evidence you have is your own personal, private observation. How convenient for you that I can't examine your evidence, LOL.

    Even in the cases of physical abuse, most abuse if two-way (including non-physical abuse). Have men become more violent in recent decades? You know it hasn't. Divorce has gone way up in recent decades.

    I completely expected someone to play the "you hate women" card. That's just more bull on your part. Address my argument about malcontents and the examples I gave. Support your claim that women being beat explains the high divorce rate.

    How much lower are you going to sink in trying to make this about me?
     
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    This above shows you willing to take your hatred of women out on anyone who would oppose you. Your really just plain funny your self Hehehehehe

    [QUOTE="Shoostie, post: 2538216, member: 15565"
    Even in the cases of physical abuse, most abuse if two-way (including non-physical abuse). Have men become more violent in recent decades? You know it hasn't. Divorce has gone way up in recent decades.

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    Wrong they have become more abusive. Where I live men not only abuse there wives but also there children. One man Murdered his wife and little babies. Violence is every where I've lived where I am for a long time and there has not been even one day go by that someone isn't murdered. It seems we are all in hell right now. Where have you been lost on a deserted Island.?


    [QUOTE="Shoostie, post: 2538216, member: 15565"
    I completely expected someone to play the "you hate women" card. That's just more bull on your part. Address my argument about malcontents and the examples I gave. Support your claim that women being beat explains the high divorce rate.
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    I don't see your support is of any value of what you claim but I do see your hatred of women. I see your lack of respect for anyone but your self Your writing reveals more than you know about you and what kind of person you are.

    [QUOTE="Shoostie, post: 2538216, member: 15565"
    How much lower are you going to sink in trying to make this about me?
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    There is an old saying "if you can't take it don't dish it out"

    Have I been disrespectful to you?. Like I said earlier you seem to hate women. Even with a vengeance. You don't have any evidence that men are the under dogs Give me a breake when it comes to marriage. Marriage has to be in even respect for each other and it's clear that you haven't any respect. some men think when he marries a woman he all of a sudden owns that woman. Slavery was done away with or didn't you know that. If you really want a women to stay with you through all trials you're going to have to learn to respect women. Some say chivalry is dead and so are there marriages stop being the master and just be a humble and respectful man. Remember do unto others as you would have them do unto you. It takes Jesus Christ to make a marriage work.
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    I’m guessing the vitriol for women in this thread might have something with the attitude of those making the claims. Seems extremely personal leaving me to believe there might be some fresh scars perhaps.
     
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    Reprobates (the Left-wing of America) like to project their bigotry. They measure everything not with reason, but with ignorance. They see America through bigoted glasses (racism, sexism, etc.) and can only assume, because they're ignorant, that everyone else functions the same way they do. So, if I say we should tell people to stop committing crimes, the leftists would accuse me of racism. And, if I say modern women are malcontents, the ignorant can't engage in reason, so they just assume misogyny. And, so you've ignored every bit of reason and evidence I've presented, and accuse me of hating women. Make sure you wipe the drool from you chin while you're giggling.

    Your evidence men are becoming more abusive is once again your own private observation that I can't analyze? The number of men who murder their wives is insignificant compared to the number of divorces.

    Why don't you pony up, man up, and get some stats about abuse leading to divorce? In what percent of divorces filed by women is domestic violence cited?

    You're making ignorant personal attacks. And, your arguments are as stupid as if I said you must hate men, because you're accusing men being violent and causing all these divorces.
     
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    I suspect that women are more abusive toward men, than the other way around. This abuse takes various forms, such as withholding sex, emasculating verbal abuse, and even physical abuse. I don't have specific evidence of this, so I won't argue it. But, it's almost a corollary of the malcontent state of women. Too bad the Left doesn't think they need evidence to make claims.
     
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    I've heard men say " I can date and marry any woman I please"
    "I just cant please any"
     
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    You seem unstable. Speaking of making a lot of statements without evidence. Pot meet kettle.
     
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    Murder is never insignificant.The reason the divorce rate is so high is because people don't know what love is.


    You are the one with the problem of man hood. I'm still married to the same woman. I don't treat my wife like she is property. I still love my wife and unlike you I don't hate women. I have a successful marriage because it is Christ centered. What do you have?


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    I'm saying women are not any worse than men. I'm saying everyone who gets married with out the marriage being Christ centered are destined to failure. Marriage takes real love not infatuation. Both men and women marry for the wrong reasons. Real Love never fades away. Both sexes claim they have fallen out of love when that is impossible. That's infatuation. Men and women both need to learn what love really is. Love is about sacrifice it's about being concerned about each other more than them selves. Real love is selfless and protective. Infatuation is about the satisfaction of self desires
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