There was another thread started by one on our side that was refuting Calvinism, and why they thought it was wrong. Threads like this gender way more heat than light. Threads like this are attacking the supporter as much as the what is being supported. It broadens the chasm more than brings us closer. It makes it appear than either side is more intellectual than the other.
Brother, respectfully, I think what you are saying is only a superficial look at what is actually going on. I do appreciate your heart in it though. An honest look at this would be revealing.
When one sees a thread started with merely subjective accusations against Calvinists, and there have been many, then we have a problem. The OP wants to argue on his ground of subjective personal experience as though it's true, and then ask for proof, even from Scholars, that what he says isn't true. Of course, that's begging the question as the OP knows scholars haven't commented on his own personal opinions, experiences or subjective beliefs. Typically, other anti-cals come in to offer their pejoratives for "Calvinist" brothers, parades of thumbs, ridicule and other nonsense.
Thus we have thread after thread started against Calvinists, and are meant to be demeaning, and a few actually have the fortitude to say something about them to the OP. More should step up to the plate. If one doesn't step up to the plate to address the OP as being this way, then the crying about it should stop. Anyone can complain about it. It's like the US, a lot of complainers who do nothing about the situation.
We also have threads which lay out the actual truths of Arminianism and non-calvinist theology. Are the actual truths addressed? No. What happens? The same non-cals come into this thread as well to offer pejorative laden comments for the OP, then comes the parade of thumbs, and the actual documented evidence is never discussed. This too turns into an attack on Calvinists.
What I am attempting to get at is this: there has to be a better way to make your point than in a demaning fashion. I have been guilty too. It's just we can debate, minus the hate. We can make our point minus vitriol.
Which is why I believe we should use documentable evidence of beliefs. When these aren't addressed and we instead get the pejoratives directed at the OP then we have a problem. It's called walking in the flesh. Many come in to offer their thumb to others who behave this way.
It's more like, "well, you don't agree with DoG, so you're dumber than me", or "you don't agree with 'non cal', so I am smarter than you". We can debate minus the hate. I am not the BB police, but we are one the same side, the side of Jesus, and Him crucifed for us. We tend to act like the opposing side is our mortal enemy, and not fellow CHRISTians in Christ.
I am sorry if I have come off as the "BB police". I just want us to disagree in love, and not vitriol. If I have offended anyone, please forgive me. That wasn't my attempt.
Be aware Bro. Aaron, that there are some Calvinistic tendencies I hold to. While I may not agree entirely with what you said, I agree that works show who we have our faith in.
What I’m hearing here is that some Calvinists don’t believe in the kind of faith of which they could freely respond…err…act upon it in love of the truth; apparently they wish to strongly believe/attempt to prove that they had to be determined to respond…err act only after the gift of grace through faith was forced on them, so what else is new?! This tread seems to be just another way to express the same point (Hard/hyper Determinism). I'm just curious as to what do they call their "action" if not free, a determined response/action because of “hate of the truth”?
Since I have the author of the op on ignore, but was able to see it due to Willis quoting it in it's entirety (gee, thanks Willis :)) and have been asked a question I will respond.
Nothing.
As my 4 year old would say, "easy, peasy"
This is interesting because the pastor at the IFB church I HAVE been attending determines if children were old enough to be saved by whether they start acting better for a week before he will baptize them.
This is the way he did my grandson and I'm not convinced my grandson even understands the salvation grace given by Jesus' sacrifice.
He's 7 years old and his dad (who is now a church "elder" (been divorced so he can't be a deacon, but he's an elder after two years of church membership)) sat with the preacher for several hours discussing his behavior the past week to determine if it had changed enough to meet the requirements of the Bible for a "saved" person.
They decided he was and dunked the kid.
Sadly, I am afraid he will go through exactly what I did; a lot of years of confusion, indecision and pain.
Due to the fact my mother talked me into walking the isle because she thought God was dealing with me.
Don't get me wrong.
My mother was one of the best Christians I know, but for some reason I wasn't meant to be saved that day.