Prom Season is now upon us.
Will your teenagers be attending a prom - ie your own kids or the kids from your church.
If not, why not?
Does your church encourage or discourage such an event?
Prom Season
Discussion in 'General Baptist Discussions' started by Salty, Apr 9, 2018.
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Baptist Believer Well-Known MemberSite Supporter
I also attended a prom back in the day. -
2. Because I don't have any. :)
I'll come back and say something about our local proms, but not right now since it may distract from your basic question. -
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Salty, I would say that as a church we neither encourage nor discourage such an event, but leave it to the discretion of the parents. I personally hardly ever think about it, but if asked I would not encourage the idea or attendance.
Since others have not commented further, I'll go ahead and mention an extra problem with the direction of the prom in one of our local schools (beyond the "to dance or not to dance" factor).
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Pastor_Bob Well-Known Member
Can someone explain was goes on at a prom? How does one get invited to the prom? What do the unpopular kids do? What are the expectations for a couple who goes to the prom? After the prom?
What kind of music is being played at the prom? What supervision is typically at the prom?
I've never been to a prom (attended Christian school grades 11-12). We homeschooled our kids so prom was never an issue in our home. -
Basically (just being honest) the rules were anything you can do with your clothes on is OK on the dance floor. No alcohol in the prom. Save the drinking and fornication for the party after the prom that will be on private property and free of supervision. -
Baptist Believer Well-Known MemberSite Supporter
From time to time, the youth has dance events at church or at camp. -
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Jordan Kurecki Well-Known MemberSite Supporter
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Scarlett O. ModeratorModerator
The school that I retired from and am now on the Board of recently had their junior/senior prom. It's a public school with about 950 kids K-12. About 125-140 students were there.
I didn't get to attend the prom with them, but about 20 teachers and the principal and his wife attend. Of course, parents pasted pictures all over Facebook. I felt that 99% of the gowns the girls were were absolutely beautiful. Only one I saw was too tight.
My principal called me the next day and said that the photographer said that our kids were so well-mannered and polite. She said would gladly come back to our school's prom.
There was dancing, pictures made, refreshments, and mostly socializing.
It was open to juniors/seniors only and their dates. Many students went without a date. Yes, they still call it going "stag". Others, of course, had dates. Some went as friends. They could bring a junior/senior of another school or older person under 20, but there was a lot of paperwork, investigating the background of, and obtaining parental permission/knowledge of before those dates could be approved.
The success or failure of a prom of any school all depends on the administration. The administration sets the rules and if student choose not to follow, they are out. If the administration doesn't set any ground rules or if there are not enough competent chaperones, then chaos can occur.
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Pastor_Bob Well-Known Member
Sure, there may be exceptions; but, over all, they are as Jordan described above.
Ezekiel 33:1 Again the word of the LORD came unto me, saying,
2 Son of man, speak to the children of thy people, and say unto them, When I bring the sword upon a land, if the people of the land take a man of their coasts, and set him for their watchman:
3 If when he seeth the sword come upon the land, he blow the trumpet, and warn the people;
4 Then whosoever heareth the sound of the trumpet, and taketh not warning; if the sword come, and take him away, his blood shall be upon his own head.
5 He heard the sound of the trumpet, and took not warning; his blood shall be upon him. But he that taketh warning shall deliver his soul.
6 But if the watchman see the sword come, and blow not the trumpet, and the people be not warned; if the sword come, and take any person from among them, he is taken away in his iniquity; but his blood will I require at the watchman's hand. -
Baptist Believer Well-Known MemberSite Supporter
We are training youth to be disciples of Jesus, ready to handle anything they come across.
When a church moves from a "do not sin" focus, to a "have a transformed character so you don't want to sin" focus, we can trust people to live morally without the church leadership trying to make decisions for everyone regarding opportunities for temptation.. -
Pastor_Bob Well-Known Member
Nehemiah 13:26 Did not Solomon king of Israel sin by these things? yet among many nations was there no king like him, who was beloved of his God, and God made him king over all Israel: nevertheless EVEN HIM did outlandish women cause to sin.
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Baptist Believer Well-Known MemberSite Supporter
...Why, as though you still belonged to the world, do you submit to its rules: “Do not handle! Do not taste! Do not touch!”? These rules, which have to do with things that are all destined to perish with use, are based on merely human commands and teachings. Such regulations indeed have an appearance of wisdom, with their self-imposed worship, their false humility and their harsh treatment of the body, but they lack any value in restraining sensual indulgence. -- Colossians 2:20b-23