I'll tell you what happened to me:
I was away with the church youth group and my son was almost 14 months old. He ended up really cranky then I took his temp and he was 103 so off to the local clinic we went. Turns out he had bronchitis and a double ear infection, poor kid. He was miserable. We had to sit at the clinic for 3 hours since were were not normal patients and he was really not feeling well. Once we got our prescriptions, we had to go to KMart where it seemed EVERYONE was sick. It was a simple amoxicillin prescription and I asked if they could possibly rush it since he was now at a 104 temp and really miserable but they wouldn't do it. I bought some baby tylenol and dosed him up as we had to walk for 45 minutes before we got our prescription. I had so many nasty looks because my son was MISERABLE and often crying, but there was nothing I could do to soothe him. I couldn't even carry him for that long at the time because my carpal tunnel was in full swing and I had no strength in my left hand at all.
So what other people saw was a mother walking around with a dazed look and a screaming child. What they didn't see was the story behind it. It was not a lazy mother or a spoiled child by any stretch. I've always given the mother the benefit of the doubt when a child is screaming unless I see other behavior that doesn't belong (such as when a parent is being verbally abusive).
Additionally, we need to remember that not all disabilities are visible to the naked eye and a child who has autism or other mental disability will act out in such a way that is not normal - and no one would have a clue that the 7 year old who was kicking and screaming actually had the mentality of a 12 month old and mom just desperately needed to get some food into the house but had no childcare so she HAD to take the child with her.
Let's try to be a little compassionate. Hey - if you have ideas, share them. "Oh, when my kids had a temper tantrum like that, one time I asked the cashier to watch my groceries so I could sit in the car until he calmed down. It really worked well." or "He might be just needing a little snuggle before you move on. It's OK to stop and sit with him. It will only take a couple of minutes." I've had people do this for me and it's so appreciated because sometimes I just get so small-focused that I forget the big picture.
As to the OP? I hope he goes to jail. Touch my child and you die. Period.
Stranger accused of slapping crying child in store
Discussion in 'News & Current Events' started by webdog, Sep 3, 2009.
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I'm not against corporal punishment (within limits, of course). The notion of a stranger spaking my kids is the kid of thing that would land me in jail... for assaulting the person who put his/her hands on my kid.
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My wife wouldn't hurt a fly. I suspect you wouldn't either.
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But I'm very non-confrontational. I'd never hurt another human being.
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pinoybaptist Active MemberSite Supporter
That man was raised by God to be at that very store at that very time so he could be the instrument to show that mother proper parenting procedures. -
If this manic was this brazen in public, I can only imagine what he would be capable of in the privacy of his own home. -
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This fella would be in the hospital before he could get to jail. I have a very low threshhold for those that mistreat children. Very low -
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I think the mother is a numbskull, doesn't discipline her child, and a 61-year-old creep took matters into his own hands. The problem isn't in what I said, the problem is in YOU. YOU think that if the mother was somewhat at fault it would mitigate the situation, and you projected that into what I said. -
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Because he assumes that it does. He assumes that single parents don't discipline... That the mother wasn't a good parent... that even though he admits he may be wrong, he knows he isn't.
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Aaron, you are slowly becoming more and more like Sanderson and Phelps...
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I live next door to some unruly children. The youngest, 3, was running toward the road, and though the parents screamed for him to stop, he didn't, because he is undisciplined. His parents, by their lack of discipline, taught him that he didn't need to obey.
A car was speeding by . . . . .
. . . about an half-hour later. Fortunately it wasn't speeding by when the little terror ran right out into the middle of the street.
By the age of three, if I hollered "stop" to my girls, they stopped.
Folks who don't discipline their children endanger them. And I think the case in the OP is one such occassion. -
Somehow I get the feeling that your kids would stop, not because of a healthy discipline you instilled in them, but because they were deathly afraid of you.
At the age of three, my kids may not have stopped immediately if I yelled stop. That's because normally well behaved and disciplined chidren sometimes just don't listen. A child that lives in constant fear, however, will listen immediately because they fear for their well being and safety. Unfortunately I think that is the situation in your household. -
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I'm also 61 years old (and have recently found out I have terminal and inoperable cancer) but had I been on the scene, someone would have definitely had "something to cry about," and it would have been one of two 61 year old males, not some 2 year old toddler!
My sturdy wooden cane would have come in quite handy, I suggest. :(
Lady Eagle, Frogman, or Squire Robersson; Page 4; "Where are you?" ;)
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My oldest is an active, straight-A student in public highschool, and is active in the Youth Leadership Council taking part in bi-monthly meetings with the Chamber of Commerce and other community organizations advising on and recommending the disbursement of donations. She is well-known and sought out by the school administration to operate in many leadership roles.
My second is in her mid-teens and still homeschooled by her own choice. She was recruited to watch one of the little terrors from next door until his school bus arrives. (I'll promise you he behaves himself at MY house.) She also mows lawns for the older folks in our neighborhood, and has done so for free for one widow who was just diagnosed with cancer this year. She has the respect of practically every adult in the neighborhood. That can't be said for any other child on my block.
My fouth-grader is advancing in piano and is achieving way beyond her grade level in math.
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Walmart is a big store. All that old man had to do is walk away. He did not need to follow them around and cause any trouble. That man showed absolutely no discipline himself. I am surprised that Aaron did not say anything negative about his parents.
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