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How else are they going to make out?

 

Tis true...good point.:thumbs:

 

It's never a good idea for two members of the opposite sex to be alone, especially young people with raging hormones.

It's typically the people who think they "Can handle it" who can't.

Pride goeth before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall.


I had classmate tell me he could handle holding hands with his girlfriend, I warned him that he was playing with fire and referenced 1 Cor 7:1... he blew off what I said and told me "I can handle it, I don't get tempted."

a few months later they were caught fornicating in a closet and were kicked from Bible College.

 

I think a lot of times we approach things like this as "Is it sin?", when we all know it's not. The better approach is "Is this wise?".



Simple answer: No, it's never wise for two single people of the opposite sex to be alone, regardless of the time. As was stated earlier, the hour doesn't matter. But the later they're out, the more likely they're alone.

 

Yes....and what time of day was it?

 

So now what? Forbid them to see each other? Because if you put a curfew on them they'll just find some other time to do it.

 

If this is a church discipline matter, putting it on a blog is encouraging rumor and malicious gossip--and none of our business to start with.

If not related to church discipline, it is just plain rumor, gossip and innuendo--still none of our business.

"Abstain from all appearance of evil" goes along with: "Whatsoever is not of faith is sin."

Everybody has dirty laundry. Now what?

Even so, come, Lord Jesus.

Bro. James

 

day time.

that's besides the point.

I don't think two young people of the opposite sex should ever be alone...day or night..

 

Read the thread title. It's the entire point.

Good luck with that. And these people are 25 and 21 years old.

 

It's been awhile but Mom told me to be sure and wake her up when I got home so she could stop worrying.

Rob

 

I certainly hope you are talking about "avoiding evil whenever and wherever it appears" instead of the legalistic and impossible-to-meet interpretation that thinks Paul is commanding the church to avoid everything that someone (usually a "religious" person or someone who has experienced a legalistic religious tradition) might possibly suspect is evil.

If you go with the latter interpretation, then Jesus, Peter and Paul violated that principle quite a bit.

There are many "religious" people who will gladly assume the worst of everyone else so that they can feel better about themselves. It is the fruit of a lack of grace and the absence of a gospel message that enables its hearers to experience transformation from the inside out.

In my experience, you can't be a faithful Christian without being called into circumstances where people may willingly misinterpret what you are doing. Jesus was crucified for it.

In regard to the specific situation raised in the OP, 1 Thessalonians 5:22 does not directly apply unless temptation to commit evil appears. Unless this couple lives in a 24-hour city like New York City, common wisdom tells us it is unlikely that anything good is going on if this is happening on a regular basis.

 

You got to be kidding? Is this a trick question?

How about providing the rest of the info so we can make an informed decision. Things like their ages? Are they living at home, or on their own? Are they adults. Have they been married before?

 

At that age, I'd say they need to be accountable to their relationship with the Father as well as being responsible enough to practice what the Bible teaches about dating. As to any sin based on when they get home. You have blamed me for making up new sins. Isn't that what you are trying to do here?

When the rubber meets the road, each of these young people are fully and completely accountable to their Abba, and no rules in this world would make a difference.

 

If that's the case, why even ask for other people's opinions???

If they're that old, whose business is it to know how long they stay out?

Are you worried that "something might happen" if they aren't home by the crack of 8 pm??

Friend, believe it or not, "something might happen" at noon. It's happened in plenty of workplaces at that time. Do I have to draw you a detailed picture to explain what I mean here?

There are plenty accounts of "Old (& I do mean OLD!) Sugar Daddy" being "not so nice" to a young female new hire who wants to be promoted to a higher-paying position really fast.
Catch my drift.

I seriously think you need to get a life instead of worrying what so-and-so might think about things like this!

Unless, of course, you're hiding something you hope won't be revealed, and, consequently, cause some people to think less highly of you than before your dirty linen suddenly became exposed for the whole world to see.

Hopefully that's not your situation. But, if it is, then you probably already know what you need to do. If not, there's plenty of good people here on BB who'd be more than happy to walk you through the process by which you can redeem yourself and start anew for God's glory and your own personal welfare.

 

Well that's a step, rocks! At least there's something there. What's that between your ears? You didn't have to say it was a sin, it is implied, by your vague approach to asking the question. And you knew some would jump on this as a parental issue, and for adults dating, a question as to their morals? So don't pretend you weren't looking for something to build a moral code around or a foundation on? :flower:

 

Rd and Zaac should never be left alone without a chaperone.