I think you somehow diminish the war that goes on between the flesh and the spirit. That no matter how much one wants to do good, evil is ever present warring against your good. Some people struggle to win this war or are only perfected by death.
It doesn't make them any less saved as long as they believe in the Lord Jesus Christ.
If a person comes to me and reveals something in confidence, no matter how bad, I can't divulge it to anyone unless she is doing something illegal. The church doesn't necessarily need to be sued but the woman who broke the confidence.
With that said, when I do talk to people in confidence we first have an understanding. I do not guarantee confidentiality. Rather, I state that if the person had enough confidence and trust to come to me in the first place, then he or she will have to have enough confidence and trust that I won't divulge what is said unless I deem it absolutely necessary to protect the integrity of the church. Or to protect a marriage from deception. Or to protect the unity of the body. And, certainly if I deem the person to be suicidal, or is molesting children, or a teenager, still under his or her parent's authority, is doing something that his or her parents need to know about. Of course I would always encourage the pregnant teenager to tell her parents herself. Or that I will go with her for support. But, unless there are some other mitigating circumstances, mom and dad have the right to know what going on with their child. If the person is unwilling then I gladly set them up to go and see a professional counselor. So far, no one has refused my offer and I haven't had to share any information.
She has already revealed her sin, to the whole world.
so is God according to His word.
not willing to obey God's word about sexual immorality.
not in the letter, someone lied here.
her children are adults, does she think they don't already know.
it shouldn't have been a surprise to her, because the memebrs know what the churches actions will be in circumstances like this, but as we've seen from her, she just doesn't beleive the bible, prefers to do her own thing.
bragging about her sinful lifestyle. which she has continued to do when she called the news paper.