Is this the same as sleeping with your neighbor?

[evangelist6589]

Very easy. Do not look out the window. Why not burry yourself in a book, watch a movie, or go the gymn? Flee temptation.

Let's say you look out your window one sunny afternoon and spot your neighbor with his shirt off and in bathing trunks, washing his car. Along with him is the shapely wife in an ultra string type, two piec,e bikini, helping him!

If you are a woman, and you look at the male -OR- you are a man and look at the female with some lustful thoughts running across your mind, but quickly put those thoughts to rest by sending them off in an honest attempt to flee the thoughts that come to mind .....

Then the following Saturday, the same scenario plays out before your eyes, and once again, the thoughts flood your mind and heart, and this time; you pull a chair up to the window and entertain some thoughts about how smoking hot the male/female is ....

Let's say on the third Saturday afternoon, this same husband and wife are repeating the show for the entertainment of anyone desiring to watch, and this time, even though you flee the lust and temptation to watch as long as you did the week before, now you can't get the image out of your mind over the next week, and you eagerly look forward to the following Saturday, or another activity by the couple to feed your desires for eye candy.

Once you determine that their manner of public dress is causing you to stumble, how would you personally handle the situation to keep from doing what David did when he looked upon a naked Bathsheba while she soaked up the rays on her rooftop. A viewing party that finally saw David inviting her over for an afternoon of adultery delight?

When does the above scenario become a sin that needs your attention and the help of God to overthrow to keep you Holy in His sight?

And, how would you go about making sure you do not continue to fall into this pit of sexual lust and visual cheating on your spouse? Would you talk with your neighbors about their manner of dress and ask them to quit displaying so much flesh? Or would you paint your access window black? Is short, what would you do to protect your witness and holiness for Jesus???

 

[evangelist6589]

Go to Home Depot or grocery shopping. A person has no place going next door and telling the neighbor what they should or should not wear while washing the car, mowing the lawn or sitting on the deck. The problem isn't what they are wearing but the response to it. Do you have to paint over the window? If that's what it takes.

"You have heard that it was said, 'YOU SHALL NOT COMMIT ADULTERY'; but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Matthew 5:27-28 NASB

I agree wesleyan.

 

[Dr. Bob]

Do what it takes. Flee temptation.

If only King David (and Bob) followed that advice.

 

[righteousdude2]

A Tale of Two Great Men ....

Do what it takes. Flee temptation.

If only King David (and Bob) followed that advice.

Great point Dr. Bob. David should have turned and walked away, looked away and if neccessary, flee. Then we have the man who did flee, Joseph, and got framed. It is an age old problem in the nature of men and women, and it must be deat with to bring god glory and maintain our stature in Him.

I think that majority of respondants have given great answers. I asked the question because it was asked of me by a young couple. It was the wife having trouble usting after the neighbor. I just wanted to see if there were any women on the board that would give some good advice, and I think I got at least one.

 

[corndogggy]

Would you talk with your neighbors about their manner of dress and ask them to quit displaying so much flesh?

Your solutions to your theoretical issues never ceases to amaze me.

 

[annsni]

It definitely shows a heart issue and one that needs to be dealt with. We watch TV and oftentimes, a Victoria's Secret commercial comes on and my husband turns to me, kisses me and tells me he loves me then asks me to tell him when it's over. His heart is such that he doesn't even want to entertain those thoughts.

The woman has enough self-control to not look and lust - she just needs to want to do it. THAT is the heart of the issue.

 

[InTheLight]

This thread is another amazing thread, similar to the strapless dress thread.

How s*xually uptight are people that they would look forward to the Saturday afternoon bikini car wash? Here's how I would handle it, how I have handled similar situations. I notice the woman, I admit that she has a fine, curvaceous body. I remind myself that I'm married, I've made my lifelong choice, I love my wife, I'm never going to touch that other woman, so just forget about it. This would last about 5 seconds. Next week she's out there again, I'd just sigh and say to myself that she's showing off again, and forget about it.

 

[thisnumbersdisconnected]

This thread is another amazing thread, similar to the strapless dress thread.

:thumbsup: "Amazing" in the amount of time and effort people will put into wasted space and endlessly irritating trillions of electrons for no apparent purpose.

 

[Rolfe]

Aren't hormones wonderful? :laugh: